Abusive Relationships: What To Do
Knowing what to do and what not to do in an abusive relationship are both sets of life survival skills to hold onto. Many times when you begin dating someone, a wide range of warning signs including possessiveness and violence are clear. However, we are so blinded by our attraction and strong feelings, we may not see them. And when we do realize that a situation isn't safe, we immediately have to learn how to get out and safely.
An abusive relationship can affect everyone within the victim's lives. If you know someone that’s in an abusive relationship, talk with them on how to get out of it as quickly as possible. The longer they wait, the more of a chance they take on getting hurt, or worse, getting hurt again.
Many individual's self esteem are lessened during these times to the point that they feel as if they deserve to be treated in such a way. In fact, many people stay in these relationships for years and don’t always notice the warning signs. If you know someone in this situation, take time to get into their head and make them realize they need to get out now!
Abusive relationships occur far too often. Many people say this is because of violence in the media or that the stresses of life are too much for someone to handle, thus their psyche bursts and they become abusive. Whatever it is that causes this behavior, it needs to be discovered and avoided so that men and women can coexist in a safe dating environment.
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The Secret - A Matter Of Inspiration by John Harricharan
Legend has it that Robert the Bruce of Scotland was losing the battle and he barely escaped with his life. His soldiers were hard pressed to keep up the fight as many were wounded and dying. The Bruce, tired, dismayed and broken-hearted found a hidden cave where he took
refuge.
He threw down his sword and sat to rest a while. Gloomy thoughts filled his mind and he reflected on the insurmountability of the task he had tried to accomplish. Perhaps Scotland would never be free -- at
least not in his lifetime. Perhaps he should abandon all efforts, give it up and lead an obscure life as a fugitive.
As these thoughts raced through his mind, out of the corner of his eye, he noticed a tiny spider trying to climb a strand of web that extended from the top of the cave almost to the floor. Up went the spider and just a few feet from the top, it slipped and fell all the way down.
Over and over again the spider repeated the process as the exhausted Bruce watched, fascinated by the perseverance of the little life form. Once again the spider climbed, this time almost reaching the top. Again it slipped and fell to the floor of the cave.
Now with rapt attention, Robert the Bruce watched to see its next move. A few more tries and finally, with one quick dash, the spider reached the ceiling.
The Bruce slowly got up, picked up his sword, cleared the depressing thoughts from his mind and went back into the battle, inspired by the strength, will and perseverance of such a tiny creature as a spider. The rest is history. The battle was won and the Bruce was, once more, the triumphant, gallant leader of his people.
There are times when everything in life seems dark and dreary. There are those times when we feel we are totally unable to take the next step or to even move one inch. These are precisely the times when we most need inspiration.
Why inspiration? It helps recharge our energy when all seems hopeless. It gives us encouragement when our "spiritual well has gone dry".
The dictionary gives different meanings to the word, "inspiration". But I think "inspiration" actually means divine messages from the Universe. There are many sources of inspiration and I want to list a few of them below.
1) Nature -- In the middle of the worst crisis, we could take a few minutes to clear our minds and look up to the sky or the stars. A little walk in the park or in the woods will do wonders for the body, mind and spirit. Breathe in the fresh air, watch the ripples on
a pond or river, get inspired by the sheer magnificence of Nature.
2) Music -- Listen to some music you really like. The sound will take your mind to another place and you'll find that miracles can occur.
3) Books and tapes -- Spend a little time absorbed in a good book. And I don't mean just self-help or spiritual books. It could be any book that engages your mind and thoughts. For example, when things seem really gloomy to me, I'd read one of Edgar Rice Burroughs' Tarzan
tales. For me, that works. For you, it might mean a totally different type of book.
And audio tapes, CD's, video tapes and DVD's have been a wonderful gift from technology. Just the other day I watched the movie, Richard Bach's "Jonathan Livingston Seagull" on my video player. Shortly thereafter, I watched the western movie, "They Call Me Trinity" on my
DVD player. Talk about being recharged! I was able to face the seeming impossible and come out smiling.
4) Friends -- We are fortunate if we have a few good friends. Somebody once asked me if I told my friends about something I was very involved with. I smiled and answered, "Yes, I told them all -- both of them." Real friends are few and far between, but they can be a
tremendous help to you by just being there and listening.
There are other sources of inspiration and I am sure you can come up with your own list that works for you. For example, take a long drive, go fishing, bake some cookies, paint a picture or make some pottery. The point is simple. Use all the sources of inspiration
available to get you through your tough times -- to help you, not only to overcome but to prosper.
Remember, the Universe is on your side. Just give it a chance to show its magnificence in your life. Happiness should always be our most important goal. All else is secondary. Lift up your eyes and look beyond your troubles. Perhaps you'll see a whole new, beautiful day
dawning for you. It's there. Go for it.
Lecturer, entrepreneur and MBA business consultant, John Harricharan is the author of the award-winning book, "When You Can Walk on Water, Take the Boat." Spiritual SimplicityThe Real Secret
For successful online dating
There are essential ingredients to online dating. A good description and a photo.
It isn't necessary to be a gifted to write a meaningful post but it is necessary to give some thought and consideration of how you want to be presented in the online dating community.
A well thought out description of your needs are and what your wants and desires are, will always work better than a basic summary of who and what you are.
The most important rule to remember when writing a dating ad is that the more content and descriptive you are the better.
Typical ads my name is Joe Bloggs. I'm 99 years old, grey , divorced with a 39 year old son. I like the country, dining out, 20's music. I'd like to meet someone 80 to 90 years old who's ready to settle down and who has similar interests to me.
you get the idea don't you. lets re-write and show you how to add zest and interest to your profile.
Hi, my name is joe I'm almost 99 years young; instead of I'm 99 years old.
Your description needn't be mediocre; grey , that does not really say anything, try short silver hair, or have silver highlights which i wear short.
Include your status as it is an important part of who you are; single, divorced etc
Is more revealing than divorced with a 39-year-old son.
A bit about what you like and expand on it why do you like what you like
I love the country and the fresh air, Italian restaurants and sushi, listening to my favorite music from the 20's and long slow country drives,
I like the country; dining out, country drives, 20's music doesn't tell the story and leaves a lot more questions than answers.
And what do you want in return; ask and the chances are you will get a better return
I'd like to meet a lady who is about my age with or without children of her own. It may be someone who may be ready to settle down and commit herself to a serious relationship if all the vibes are right. I'm not looking for frantic activity times, sporty types or constant parties, I dislike smoke as it affects my wellbeing.
if you like the sound of me then please drop me a note. I will reply to everyone who contacts me and we can take it from there.
